Post by ichiro on Nov 30, 2003 10:34:14 GMT -5
Dear Customers & Friends
Hello. This is Yuka, Ichiro's wife. I am writing today's Ichiroya's News Letter. I am going to write about Japanese `kekkon' (marriage)of older times and also a little about the modern times.
I remember having a great shock when I asked my grand mother a question, when I was very little. I asked my grandmother one day, `Obaachan(Grandma), how long did you go out with Ojiichan(Grandpa)?' and
she said, she has seen his photo once before she got married with him.
`Do you mean you got married without seeing him?' I remember asking her again and again. I just could not believe it and could not understand how people could get married with someone you have not seen him before.
Kekkon (marriage)for women used to mean that she will be a yome. It is a very hard word to translate--it does not mean a wife but yome is yome- and it is written as women in a house when written in Kanji. Kekkon meant women to become a member of her husband's family, leaving her own family.
Arranged marriage were the most popular style in my grand mother's time.
There are naked(matchmaker)everywhere in the community, the relatives or bosses often set up the `omiai'(a go-between affair). There are still omiai system but these days matrimonial agency sytem seems to be more popular. When the marriage is set, the bridegroom has to bring `betrothal money' to the bride's house. Fukusa(covering cloth)with auspicious
motifs are used, and the decorations of auspicious figures as pinetrees-bamboo-plumblossoms, or cranes & turtles as in the photo are often accompanied.
www.yuinou.com/big/fune/index.html
The bride's family also prepare the return gift--it can be gift money or items as a watch or a suit also are popular. The bride groom supposed to visit the bride's house with his parents to bring the betorothal money.
My father and my mother were brought up at next doors, and the both family knew each other very well--so they thought they did not want the formal betrothal exchange. My father just went my mother's house to hand the betrothal money. He was wearing a pair of everyday geta, and he has been teased about that for many years. I guesss geta was too informal even though they knew each other very well.
I will talk about the things brides had to bring with her. The tradition is very different according to each area and of course the tradition does not seem to exist anymore especially in the big cities, so it is so hard to tell what is the common way these days. In older times brides were supposed to bring chest with the drawers full of clothing. She had to bring Yogi, futon cover, yutan(the covering cloth with family crest which covers chest)and other things.
She had to bring, many kimono including two sets of funeral kimono(both for summer and other seasons) homongi(semiformal), komon and so on.
The big trucks with the back made by glass to show what the bride brought were actually seen until some years ago--of course the back of the truck decorated with wide red and white ribbons. The truck can never back up even though they take a wrong way. It is hated because it is `engigawarui'(ominous ) for brides.
Traditional way of wedding is drastically decreased--the reasons are :
it is too costly and also modern brides and bridegrooms prefer to have original style. Traditional weddings were costly. Nagoya area is famous for the gorgeous wedding and the avarage amount of money they used for one wedding was 9590.000yen($87200)but after the bubble economy has collapsed, the average amount became 7270000yen($68800).
Nakodo(match makers), yuino(betorothal money), and yomeirijitaku (things brides bring)may become a dead language--younger people tend to ignore these tradition recently.
Today we have listed children kimono and kasuri.
www.ichiroya.com/item/search.php?md=1201
Especially #56160 is very rare. It is antique child kimono made of linen, and has elegant yuzen dyed pattern.
www.ichiroya.com/item/list2.php?number=56160
Thank you for reading to the end. We always thank you for your attention and ordering to us. Arigatou gozaimasu! :-)
Ichiro & Yuka Wada
Kimono Flea Market "ICHIROYA"
www.ichiroya.com
Hello. This is Yuka, Ichiro's wife. I am writing today's Ichiroya's News Letter. I am going to write about Japanese `kekkon' (marriage)of older times and also a little about the modern times.
I remember having a great shock when I asked my grand mother a question, when I was very little. I asked my grandmother one day, `Obaachan(Grandma), how long did you go out with Ojiichan(Grandpa)?' and
she said, she has seen his photo once before she got married with him.
`Do you mean you got married without seeing him?' I remember asking her again and again. I just could not believe it and could not understand how people could get married with someone you have not seen him before.
Kekkon (marriage)for women used to mean that she will be a yome. It is a very hard word to translate--it does not mean a wife but yome is yome- and it is written as women in a house when written in Kanji. Kekkon meant women to become a member of her husband's family, leaving her own family.
Arranged marriage were the most popular style in my grand mother's time.
There are naked(matchmaker)everywhere in the community, the relatives or bosses often set up the `omiai'(a go-between affair). There are still omiai system but these days matrimonial agency sytem seems to be more popular. When the marriage is set, the bridegroom has to bring `betrothal money' to the bride's house. Fukusa(covering cloth)with auspicious
motifs are used, and the decorations of auspicious figures as pinetrees-bamboo-plumblossoms, or cranes & turtles as in the photo are often accompanied.
www.yuinou.com/big/fune/index.html
The bride's family also prepare the return gift--it can be gift money or items as a watch or a suit also are popular. The bride groom supposed to visit the bride's house with his parents to bring the betorothal money.
My father and my mother were brought up at next doors, and the both family knew each other very well--so they thought they did not want the formal betrothal exchange. My father just went my mother's house to hand the betrothal money. He was wearing a pair of everyday geta, and he has been teased about that for many years. I guesss geta was too informal even though they knew each other very well.
I will talk about the things brides had to bring with her. The tradition is very different according to each area and of course the tradition does not seem to exist anymore especially in the big cities, so it is so hard to tell what is the common way these days. In older times brides were supposed to bring chest with the drawers full of clothing. She had to bring Yogi, futon cover, yutan(the covering cloth with family crest which covers chest)and other things.
She had to bring, many kimono including two sets of funeral kimono(both for summer and other seasons) homongi(semiformal), komon and so on.
The big trucks with the back made by glass to show what the bride brought were actually seen until some years ago--of course the back of the truck decorated with wide red and white ribbons. The truck can never back up even though they take a wrong way. It is hated because it is `engigawarui'(ominous ) for brides.
Traditional way of wedding is drastically decreased--the reasons are :
it is too costly and also modern brides and bridegrooms prefer to have original style. Traditional weddings were costly. Nagoya area is famous for the gorgeous wedding and the avarage amount of money they used for one wedding was 9590.000yen($87200)but after the bubble economy has collapsed, the average amount became 7270000yen($68800).
Nakodo(match makers), yuino(betorothal money), and yomeirijitaku (things brides bring)may become a dead language--younger people tend to ignore these tradition recently.
Today we have listed children kimono and kasuri.
www.ichiroya.com/item/search.php?md=1201
Especially #56160 is very rare. It is antique child kimono made of linen, and has elegant yuzen dyed pattern.
www.ichiroya.com/item/list2.php?number=56160
Thank you for reading to the end. We always thank you for your attention and ordering to us. Arigatou gozaimasu! :-)
Ichiro & Yuka Wada
Kimono Flea Market "ICHIROYA"
www.ichiroya.com